Hey if your new to this blog then welcome. My name's Dillinger and my aim is to help guys who want to improve their dating and success with women. I was once a Shy Guy who literally used to shake at the thought of approaching and women, but after learning about how to use my body in body language, how to act around
beautiful women and very importantly how to get a grip of my confidence. I now have no fear when approaching women, in fact i love it and so will you the more you learn from this blog!
Ok in this post i am going to be delving into the complex or (so we thought), mind of the female!
Over the past few months i have being doing some further study into the thoughts and feelings of women, mainly when it come to attraction and dating, and what i have discovered is astounding! Even more so than I originally thought!
Findings
Ok, well a common misconception of most men is that to get a beautiful women's attention you need to be either, Rich, Incredibly good looking, Drive a fast car, know 101 pick up lines or all of the afore mentioned. The truth is guys it's all a myth!
Sure there are some women that go for guys with a big bank balance or the fast car but it's not the money or the car that attracts them it's what they stand for and convey. Generally speaking men with money are very confident, they have little to worry about and are in control! Women LOVE confidence & a men that they feel is in control!
The reason for this stems way back to when we all used to live in caves and men were the hunter gatherers and women the home makes and took care of the children. We all, men and women still have these subconscious thought cycles hard wired into our minds, that are triggered when the opposite sex, does, looks, acts, says or smells a certain way!
Women genetically are looking for somebody to protect them, who is of strong character, confidant within them selves and is comfortable being around women. When we as shy guys with are nervous body language, our tendency to not to be able to hold eye contact or lack of ability to approach women. We do not give off the confident, strong signals! Where as the guys who have mastered their confidence and feel worthy of women will inevitably give off in ridiculous amounts the signals that flip on the attraction switches for women!
Here's a sight i'm sure you've see a hundred times, your in a bar, a mall or a restaurant, a beautiful woman walks by. She's so hot that everyones attention is on her, even the women's eyes are looked onto her! Then out of nowhere an either geeky or just ugly guy is on her arm. Now two thoughts come to mind usually with men and that is either he's loaded or his penis is 12 inches long. Well guy's generally neither is true although props to him if her has either!
What this guy has done is flipped, this women's attraction switch on. So forget needing to buy a fast car, forget having to be rich, and forget every pick up line ever, you don't need them. All you will ever need is to be able to turn on a women's attraction switch!
I'n my next post we will be discovering what are women's attraction switches and how YOU can turn them on!
As ever any questions please Click Here to contact me
Until next time
Dillinger
Friday, 22 January 2010
Tuesday, 5 January 2010
Confidence Causes Attraction - Fact!
Hey guy's,
In the last post Talking With your Body part 3 we discussed about how your confidence or lack of that could be holding you back from your beauty in the corner. We discussed & maybe some of you have had a few realizations and discovered that it's not approaching women that scare you it's the fear of rejection that scares the pants of you!
Today we are going to go into more depth about confidence it's self and how we can gain more so that we may be able to go out into the field and date the women we want to date, without fear, anxiety, and frustration! I will be showing you one technique in particular called the "Burn and Relearn Method"
Resent studies have shown that number 1 on woman's list of things they find attractive in men is Confidence. Which makes sense when you think about it. Let's think about the psychology of women and what makes them tick. Psychologists say that our own brains are still subconsciously in cycles from the neanderthal times, where the man was the protector and the women was the poor defenseless home maker. So what todays women actually feel subconsciously towards a confident man is security, she feels secure around him and this enables her to relax, be herself and enjoy her time with him. This is why we want to become confident so that women will be relaxed and be themselves around us!
We have previously looked at how to look confident but how do we actually become confident inside? Well we are going to start by using the Burn and Relearn Method. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of it. On the left hand side write down all your doubts you have about approaching women.
A quick story. I used to have the shy guy problem and would physically FEAR rejection so badly i wouldn't go out clubbing, just in case my friends were like dude she's checking you out go over to her! I used to look at the beautiful girls and think "what could i offer her?" " She wouldn't be interested in me" and my favorite " She's outta my league"! Well NO one is out of your league this i promise you. You can and will have any girl you want if you learn you become the confident you!
Ok so fill the left side of the paper with doubts you have about approaching women, for instance fear of rejection, not knowing what to talk about, does she want me to talk to her, am i good enough for her ect.
Now on the right hand side of the paper, you are going to right down the NEW FEELINGS you want when go to approach a women. How good do you want to feel, when you spot a girl in a bar at the deli or at the post office and just think i like her, I'm going for it, with no hesitation at all! You could want to feel excited and confident. Or great that you don't feel insecure and great because you know what you are going to say.
Ok so now we have a piece of paper with doubts on the left and the way we want to feel on the right. Above the doubts title that side The Old Me and the rights side title The New Me. Now repeat after me " My old me used to have doubts about approaching women such as ( read out your doubts), but now i know that these are all false and that when i approach girls my new me will feel ( read out feelings you want to feel). I want you to read this to your self for the next week twice a day. This may sound and feel a bit mumbo jumbo, but what is actually going on is you are reprogramming your brain to think differently and I'll tell you why. This new way of thinking will bring new results because it will create new neurons in the brain that will fire when you think of talking to a girl instead of the old ones. The subconscious loves repetition so by reading this ALOUD twice a day it will help it sink into your subconscious and change your outlook when approaching women, which in turn will increase your confidence.
After the 7 days is up i want you to cut the piece of paper down the middle. You will have now separated the doubts and new feelings you want. Take the doubts piece of paper and BURN it, destroy it. It no longer has a place in your life that was the old you. The new, sexy, confidence, outgoing, marvelous you is here and here to stay, so BURN it. (this part feels great) Ok doubts are burnt, now with the "new feelings paper" say once a day out-loud, " The feelings i will have when i approach a women will be (list feelings), do this everyday for the next month, together with reading my blog and products to learn how to talk and approach women and watch as you confidence soars!
I really hope that you take the steps above a follow through with them as this has been one of my best ways of improving my confidence and remember you are a great guy, now go and show them why!
As always and questions email me: Click Here
Until next time Dillinger
In the last post Talking With your Body part 3 we discussed about how your confidence or lack of that could be holding you back from your beauty in the corner. We discussed & maybe some of you have had a few realizations and discovered that it's not approaching women that scare you it's the fear of rejection that scares the pants of you!
Today we are going to go into more depth about confidence it's self and how we can gain more so that we may be able to go out into the field and date the women we want to date, without fear, anxiety, and frustration! I will be showing you one technique in particular called the "Burn and Relearn Method"
Resent studies have shown that number 1 on woman's list of things they find attractive in men is Confidence. Which makes sense when you think about it. Let's think about the psychology of women and what makes them tick. Psychologists say that our own brains are still subconsciously in cycles from the neanderthal times, where the man was the protector and the women was the poor defenseless home maker. So what todays women actually feel subconsciously towards a confident man is security, she feels secure around him and this enables her to relax, be herself and enjoy her time with him. This is why we want to become confident so that women will be relaxed and be themselves around us!
We have previously looked at how to look confident but how do we actually become confident inside? Well we are going to start by using the Burn and Relearn Method. Get a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle of it. On the left hand side write down all your doubts you have about approaching women.
A quick story. I used to have the shy guy problem and would physically FEAR rejection so badly i wouldn't go out clubbing, just in case my friends were like dude she's checking you out go over to her! I used to look at the beautiful girls and think "what could i offer her?" " She wouldn't be interested in me" and my favorite " She's outta my league"! Well NO one is out of your league this i promise you. You can and will have any girl you want if you learn you become the confident you!
Ok so fill the left side of the paper with doubts you have about approaching women, for instance fear of rejection, not knowing what to talk about, does she want me to talk to her, am i good enough for her ect.
Now on the right hand side of the paper, you are going to right down the NEW FEELINGS you want when go to approach a women. How good do you want to feel, when you spot a girl in a bar at the deli or at the post office and just think i like her, I'm going for it, with no hesitation at all! You could want to feel excited and confident. Or great that you don't feel insecure and great because you know what you are going to say.
Ok so now we have a piece of paper with doubts on the left and the way we want to feel on the right. Above the doubts title that side The Old Me and the rights side title The New Me. Now repeat after me " My old me used to have doubts about approaching women such as ( read out your doubts), but now i know that these are all false and that when i approach girls my new me will feel ( read out feelings you want to feel). I want you to read this to your self for the next week twice a day. This may sound and feel a bit mumbo jumbo, but what is actually going on is you are reprogramming your brain to think differently and I'll tell you why. This new way of thinking will bring new results because it will create new neurons in the brain that will fire when you think of talking to a girl instead of the old ones. The subconscious loves repetition so by reading this ALOUD twice a day it will help it sink into your subconscious and change your outlook when approaching women, which in turn will increase your confidence.
After the 7 days is up i want you to cut the piece of paper down the middle. You will have now separated the doubts and new feelings you want. Take the doubts piece of paper and BURN it, destroy it. It no longer has a place in your life that was the old you. The new, sexy, confidence, outgoing, marvelous you is here and here to stay, so BURN it. (this part feels great) Ok doubts are burnt, now with the "new feelings paper" say once a day out-loud, " The feelings i will have when i approach a women will be (list feelings), do this everyday for the next month, together with reading my blog and products to learn how to talk and approach women and watch as you confidence soars!
I really hope that you take the steps above a follow through with them as this has been one of my best ways of improving my confidence and remember you are a great guy, now go and show them why!
As always and questions email me: Click Here
Until next time Dillinger
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