Help is at hand I think????

For many years now I have found it very hard, well I said hard I mean impossible to approach women and chat to them. Weather it be in a club, bar, restaurant or even a work colleague. The fear is incredible, I mean I will see a girl in a bar she will give me all the right signals but still I have this fear of approaching her. Why?

Well it's a common psychological problem for about 75% of men and that's lack of confidence or an inferiority complex. I consider my self to be a good looking guy, a lot of my sisters friends think I'm good looking. So why do I still have a problem?

I think think most men are like me, well 75% anyway. I look at a girl, I think ok she's gorgeous, sexy, classy, her friends says she's really intelligent, she everything I could ask for in a women, but the inevitable question comes along! What will she see in me?

This is our major mistake, we are instantly putting our minds into a negative mind frame, and thus even if we did muster up the courage to approach the beauty in the corner, our body language, speech and general attitude isn't very attractive.

A little experiment I tried that had better results, was to imagine the girl smiling, and being delighted you have come over to speak to her. Lets face it guy's why do girls spend hours getting ready, putting on make-up, sorting their hair and slipping into that little black number it is so guy's yes us, will go and chat to them. So go on imagine the girl, wanting you to go and chat to them, because as we have found out. They do!