Ok in my last few posts i have talked about, the basics of body language and how to hold your self, how to look more attractive, and how to see if the opposite sex are attracted to you and if you should approach!
Well in this installment we are going to look into building confidence within you and looking confident on the outside, because as much as people deny it the two are related!
Ok so how to we go from a Shy Guy to a confident guy???
Well were going to start with YOU, yes that's right you. The reason i believe we are shy or afraid of speaking with beautiful women is one of two things. We either do think we can offer these girls anything, the old saying " what will she want with me?" comes to mind. Man i've used that to death. And the other reason is we are afraid of what people with think of us if or when we get rejected by these beautiful women!
But what both of these reasons equates to is fear of REJECTION! Now i know i harp on about this bad boy all the time but hey, this is the one and only reason that Shy Guys fail with women.
However this is a good thing! Yes i say good thing! It is far easier to learn how become more confident then be over confident, cocky and arrogant!
Ok so were afraid of rejection, well step one is to think about this very scenario for a second. Ok lets say you go over to a really hot girl, and you say hey my names James, can i buy you a drink? She says now but you can leave now! and her friends giggle. What you have to realize that this isn't you with bad game this is you running into a complete BITCH and even the best pick up artists would have to pull out there best moves to defrost this ice queen!
Get over it, so what if she blows you off, so what if she snubs you, so what, so what, so what? Your still alive, you can still walk, you can go and speak to another women. And you still live in the knowledge that your a decent human being. The fact that she blew you off could have been hundreds of different things. Like she's had a bad day at work, 3 ass holes could have tried picking her up just before you went over and she just wants to be left alone. It's not always you dude!
Ok, first thing i want you to do is, practice walking with your shoulders back, with chest out and head up! While doing this think of a comedy sketch that just cracks you up every time! This is to help show you feel good and puts a smile on your face. A smile will increase your attraction by 100% compared to not smiling! So smile be happy, lifes good!
Now when we walk, we walk slower. Take in your surroundings! Confident guys don't rush, their in control, they take their time, the world works to help them! So take your time. One great tip i can give you as well is if you walk into somewhere like a bar or shop, look the girls in the eyes for a few seconds and then move onto the next girl, as we discussed last time the importance of eye contact is immeasurable. Have you ever wanted to be that guy that walks into the bar and all the groups of girls start talking about you, this is a little way to begin to create that "who's that guy" moment and boy what a confidence booster that is.
Ok that will do for this post as i want you to go and practice the above. As usual any issues you wana chat about contact me @ mrshyguyblog@gmai.com
Untill next time
Dillinger
Tuesday, 22 December 2009
Wednesday, 16 December 2009
Talking with your body - Part 2
Hey Guys,
Hope you have taken in what we discussed last time, about eye contact, smiling, holding yourself correctly and noticing her body language and beginning to read it!
This will inevitably help you improve your confidence as you will know she wants you to come over a flirt with her!!!
In this post we will be going into more detail on specifics of body language:
Ok now if your reading this then you were once like me "Mr Shy Guy", you see a really cute girl and you really, really want to go and chat with her. Unfortunately the fear kicks in and totally immobilizes you and you basically just freeze! I know i've been there and it's the worst thing ever, because all you can say to your self is if only i could speak with her, if only!
But what were all really afraid of and what that fear we feel is REJECTION. Were afraid that if we go over and speak with a beautiful women, that we wont even register on her radar and she will just snub us!
Now i know not many if any of you have experienced this because, your afraid to go and find out, and hey it's not a problem 75% of men say they are scared of a women rejecting them.
What I am going to teach you in this and the next few posts is the basics of Body Language - How attract that beauty in the corner with your body!!!!
Ok so let set up the useful scene. Your in a bar and you turn round and notice this gorgeous women by the bar. You want to go and talk to her but you freeze, you get the fear of rejection ect, ect.
So how to we get rid of this fear!!!!
Well what we need to do is establish if the girl is interested in us first.
So we need create attraction with our body!!!
Firstly we need you to relax because i know what you do you see the girl start thinking about approaching her and tense up, as i have said in my last post women are like poker players, now wait amazing poker players they are far better at reading body language then we can even imagine. So if your nervous, scared and tense this will show through your subconscious body language.
First take a DEEP breath, hold it in (don't suffocate) then exhale. repeat this 3 times this will release the tension in your shoulders and your chest!
Ok now start moving, walk around a little wiggle your fingers, and laugh! Think of something that cracks you up, maybe your favorite comic has a gag that just kills you every time you here it. Think of that and laugh. When we laugh we dissipate any tension or unease we have in our body and also,it's been proven that a person smiling looks 85% more attractive than if your not. I think this is because we want to be around happy people and people that are going to make us happy! makes sense really!
Ok so how can we tell if she's interested?
Well first we need to make eye contact, this is the crucial first step. Look over at her catch her eyes and hold her gaze for about 4 seconds, look away for 4 seconds and then look back at her for 4 seconds.
If she is interested and likes the look of you she may do a number of things, the obvious is smile at you! If she smiles make sure she shows her teeth as when we are genuinely and excited we show our teeth when we smile. Also she may flick her hair or twirl her hair around her finger this is the look at me i'm playing coy move, she is trying to so she is available! Another sign is for the women to move her hiar to one side of her neck exposing her neck which is a erogenous zone and shows
vulnerability!!! A classic is for her to start to run her fingers across her chest or hold her hand on her chest.
What we need to remember with body language is not to take each of the above signal in isolation as they may just be habits she has. You need to look for a group of movements, such as when you look at her for the second time she may begin twirling her hair, smile and run her fingers across her chest.
If you see these signs smile back and see if her she smiles or carries on smiling. If so then you in!!!!!!
In my next post i will be exposing some more tell, tell signs she LIKES YOU and how to improve your chances with her using your body!!
Untill next time!!
Remember all you have to fear is fear it's self!!!
Hope you have taken in what we discussed last time, about eye contact, smiling, holding yourself correctly and noticing her body language and beginning to read it!
This will inevitably help you improve your confidence as you will know she wants you to come over a flirt with her!!!
In this post we will be going into more detail on specifics of body language:
Ok now if your reading this then you were once like me "Mr Shy Guy", you see a really cute girl and you really, really want to go and chat with her. Unfortunately the fear kicks in and totally immobilizes you and you basically just freeze! I know i've been there and it's the worst thing ever, because all you can say to your self is if only i could speak with her, if only!
But what were all really afraid of and what that fear we feel is REJECTION. Were afraid that if we go over and speak with a beautiful women, that we wont even register on her radar and she will just snub us!
Now i know not many if any of you have experienced this because, your afraid to go and find out, and hey it's not a problem 75% of men say they are scared of a women rejecting them.
What I am going to teach you in this and the next few posts is the basics of Body Language - How attract that beauty in the corner with your body!!!!
Ok so let set up the useful scene. Your in a bar and you turn round and notice this gorgeous women by the bar. You want to go and talk to her but you freeze, you get the fear of rejection ect, ect.
So how to we get rid of this fear!!!!
Well what we need to do is establish if the girl is interested in us first.
So we need create attraction with our body!!!
Firstly we need you to relax because i know what you do you see the girl start thinking about approaching her and tense up, as i have said in my last post women are like poker players, now wait amazing poker players they are far better at reading body language then we can even imagine. So if your nervous, scared and tense this will show through your subconscious body language.
First take a DEEP breath, hold it in (don't suffocate) then exhale. repeat this 3 times this will release the tension in your shoulders and your chest!
Ok now start moving, walk around a little wiggle your fingers, and laugh! Think of something that cracks you up, maybe your favorite comic has a gag that just kills you every time you here it. Think of that and laugh. When we laugh we dissipate any tension or unease we have in our body and also,it's been proven that a person smiling looks 85% more attractive than if your not. I think this is because we want to be around happy people and people that are going to make us happy! makes sense really!
Ok so how can we tell if she's interested?
Well first we need to make eye contact, this is the crucial first step. Look over at her catch her eyes and hold her gaze for about 4 seconds, look away for 4 seconds and then look back at her for 4 seconds.
If she is interested and likes the look of you she may do a number of things, the obvious is smile at you! If she smiles make sure she shows her teeth as when we are genuinely and excited we show our teeth when we smile. Also she may flick her hair or twirl her hair around her finger this is the look at me i'm playing coy move, she is trying to so she is available! Another sign is for the women to move her hiar to one side of her neck exposing her neck which is a erogenous zone and shows
vulnerability!!! A classic is for her to start to run her fingers across her chest or hold her hand on her chest.
What we need to remember with body language is not to take each of the above signal in isolation as they may just be habits she has. You need to look for a group of movements, such as when you look at her for the second time she may begin twirling her hair, smile and run her fingers across her chest.
If you see these signs smile back and see if her she smiles or carries on smiling. If so then you in!!!!!!
In my next post i will be exposing some more tell, tell signs she LIKES YOU and how to improve your chances with her using your body!!
Untill next time!!
Remember all you have to fear is fear it's self!!!
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