Talking with your body - Part 1

Hi, sorry for the long wait since the last post but I have been doing a lot of research, so i can begin to add a lot more quality to my posts.

What have I been up to?

Well i have been doing a lot of research on psychology, and more importantly the psychology of both the male and female mind. In order to find out what makes some guys more able to pull girls?

This post is going to focus on body language and the way we conduct our selves when in the company of a girl we like.

Along with my research i have been talking with women as well. Recently i spoke with a few of my sisters friends who gave me a big in site into the female mind!!!

I initially asked them "so what would be the best way for a man to approach you"?

The reply was both interesting, yet very surprising. They said that they can tell a mile off what a guy is thinking by his body language and the way he holds himself. After doing a little research into this i have found out that women can read body language 50% better then us men. Fact women love body language!

So with this i mind i delved further into the question what would be the best way to approach a women? The girls said that it normally starts with eye contact. You notice somebody, noticing you and take if from there. I asked what could a man do with this eye contact that would make him more attractive to you? The answer was keep eye contact, this is a must. Once you see her looking at you lock into her stare, smile and slightly squint and i mean slightly dont make it look like you have something in your eye lol. And do not look away until she does.

Ok so we have now established that you are interested in her, what we need to do now is see if she gives you any signals to invite you over. Apparently one of the classics if shes at the bar is to turn her back to you and rest on the bar, as she wants you to approach her and stand next to her. Another more subtle one is to run her fingers through her hair or tuck it behind her ear.

The next question i asked the girls keeping in mind women love body language was, " ok so just by looking at a man what would be something that would make him attractive"? The answer that came from almost every girl was "confidence", this single factor is what 99.9% of women feel they need to see when they look at a man to find him attractive. What we need to remember is that psychologically both men and women are still if the pre-historic thought pattern that men go out and hunt and women stay at home, cook and clean. So a strong confident man really appeals to women.

Ok so how do we look confident? Well several things can be done to achieve this. Firstly always walk with your shoulders back and your back straight and smile, yes that's right smile. Smiling is one of the most attractive things that you can do. It shows, your happy, your enjoying your self and the truth is that people want to be around happy people! Ok next thing to make our selves look more attractive is chill out and slow down, this dynamically improves your attractiveness, just look at guys like Steve Mcqueen, James Bond, Will smith, Brad Pitt. The word COOL comes to mind and slowing down everything like your walk, your hand gestures, how you grab your drink, put it to you lips and drink it and then put it down will inevitably make you look cooler. At first your will have to consciously think about this but eventually it will become second nature.

Well i hope that has given you enough to think about, and try out.

Things to try out

Eye contact - Just try holding eye contact with a girl and see if you can hold it until she looks away first!

Slowing down - Try slowing your walk down, your hand gestures and small things like drinking your drink. ( don't over kill this and look like your in slowmo though lol - be sensible maybe add a few seconds onto drinking your drink)

Smiling - Studies have shown that people that smile, look more attractive, attract more women and generally feel better about themselves.

Give them ago and let me know how you get on!

Until next time 

Dillinger